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I felt pregnant.

It was our third IVF attempt, and it seemed like they’d finally gotten my drug protocol right.  We made four gorgeous embryos, two of which were top rated, one of which was 8-celled, symmetrical and seemingly perfect.

I was so certain I’d get pregnant with at least one of those little suckers that I’d started to fantasize/panic about the possibility of twins.  I mentally shopped for the minivan and double stroller I’d need, and indulged in some concern over never being able to afford airline travel again.

I had promised Dave I wouldn’t take a home pregnancy test during the two week wait— bad karma – so I held out for the blood test at the doctor’s office.

All systems seemed to be go: Aunt Flo was late, I was exhausted and my bra felt tight.  When the nurse called using her bad news voice, I thought maybe they had mixed up the lab results.  I peed in a cup just to be sure.  No baby.

There isn’t much time for mourning when you’re mothering a toddler, but sometimes emotions cannot be denied.  Right after I got the news, I drove Viv to the playground and couldn’t find a parking spot.  Then I spotted one, but only in my rear view mirror as I passed it by.  I sped around the block to grab the open spot, but managed to miss it again (distracted much?).  On my third attempt to get the same parking spot, someone snaked it just as I was about to pull in.  I burst into tears.

I couldn’t park.  I couldn’t park for anything.  I had tried three times to park, and even my third try had failed.

“Mommy, are you sad?”  Viv asked from the back seat.

Crap.  I didn’t want that moment to end up in my daughter’s nightmares or future therapy sessions.  I had to get it under control.

“A little bit, honey,” I sniffled.  “Mommy’s frustrated because I can’t find a parking spot.”

“Are you sad about the parking, Mommy?”

“Yes, sweetheart.  Mommy has been trying SO HARD to find a parking spot.  Maybe I just have to keep trying.”

And of course we eventually found parking.  Because even in Los Angeles, finding parking is easier than making a baby over 40.

Keep trying.  The words haunted me.  A good lesson for Viv, but realistic for me? We’re supposed to see Dr. Rosenpenis for another creepy post mortem next week, and I believe he’ll tell us they’ve done all they can, medically speaking.

Dave thinks science just doesn’t work for us.  We made Viv naturally, and maybe we can still do it again.   Or, naturally, but with whatever acupuncture/ayurvedic/holistic/nutritional nonsense plan I can throw together.  We’re lousy with that stuff in California.

But Dave’s point was that Viv is a miracle.  “We just need another miracle,” he told me.   This automatically reminded me of The Grateful Dead.  “I Need a Miracle” is the name of a song, and also a popular method of scoring a free ticket at the entrance to the show.

I Need A Miracle photo

Via Flickr/LizBallerPhotos 

Yes, it occurred to me that anybody old enough to have firsthand Grateful Dead experience is really pushing the bounds on reproductive age.

A miracle would help.

 

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